Just finished Week 11 in Room…
This week was one of those weeks that forced me to practice patience and be reminded that High School is a lot more than the classroom and academia. This week was PARENT TEACHER CONFERENCE week. It also was a NO SCHOOL Monday with Columbus day, so we only had 2 full days of school this week. Thursday and Friday were 1/2 days because of Parent Teacher Conferences.
This week was the first time I have ever been on the teacher side of Parent/Teacher conferences. I didn’t know what to expect. When I used to attend Parent Teacher conferences from the parent side of the meeting…I always felt like it was time for the teacher to think that I was a bad parent because my kids weren’t doing as good as they could be. I was always nervous going in, as a parent, on parent/teacher conferences. I was always a bit insecure about what kind of parent the teacher thought I might be.
I think those past experiences helped me to help the parents who walked into Room 1501…relax. I love their students and I was excited to tell them how good they are doing and how proud I am of their kid(s).
I could tell that some of the parents coming in were nervous. I could see it in their eyes and body language. It was obvious to me how much the parents loved their children. It was fun to watch the parent’s nerves calm down when I began to mention their student by name, express gratefulness that their student was in my class, share details of their talents and strengths, and tell them that I felt they had a great kid. Some parents teared up a little.
My experience from the Teacher side of Parent/Teacher Conferences taught me that every parent thinks and wishes they could do a better job of parenting. I learned that every parent gets nervous, when confronted with what others think about their child, and how it might reflect on them as a parent and person. I learned that every parent has a bit of panic, mixed with hope, that every teacher is helping shape their child to be successful in the world. It was obvious to me that most parents recognize that they cannot raise their child(ren) on their own.
Every day, every parent releases their child out into the “wild” and out of the control of their loving arms. I can really see it in the moms of the world. I’m convinced nearly every mom…even when deeply frustrated with their students of Room 1501…wonders if they will see their child again at the end of the day. What if the car crashes? What if there is a shooter at the school? What if there is a tragic accident on the sports field? What if? What if? Seems to be a lot of worry in our world. I guess it begs to ask the question as to if worry is sinful.
I heard a preacher recently talk about how worry is sinful and evil. I was frustrated at the lack of Biblical truth behind that teaching. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that worry is evil. It may say that worry is useless, but it is not evil. I do not think that worry is a sin…I think worry is useless and a waste of time. I challenge any “disagree-ers”…to show me the Bible verses that say Worry is evil or sinful. Some might argue that worry is a lack of trust in God. I”m not sure you can prove that by using the Bible. Worry could be an intense love for the things you care deeply about. Worry might be because you recognize that God asked you to steward some things of His and you want to do an excellent job. The only way I will agree that worry could be a sin is if the worry consumes us, controls us and causes us to behave sinfully. However, I do not think that worry in and of itself is a sin. The Bible is loaded with a lot of “little” things that it calls sin…worry is not one of them.
(At the end of this blog…if you’d like to do a Bible Study on Worry, I will include some Bible verses for you to do so.)
I would venture to say that Jesus worried. I think it is a fair guess to say that Jesus, in the Garden of Gethsemane, had such anxiety, stress, and pressure, that blood came to the surface of skin. This condition is called Hematidrosis. (read about it in wikipedia here). Jesus begged the Father, three times, to let Him out of the crucifixion. I think Jesus was worried at that moment…without sinning. I don’t want to get off subject too much, but the reality is…worry is useless…but I do not think it is evil or sin…in and of itself. In fact…agreeing with that might cause you to worry less. 🙂
When I met the parents of the some of the students of Room 1501…and noticed a little worry on their faces…I know for a fact that I was privileged to be able to help them relax and worry a little less about their students. Their worry/concern helped me to realize something about being a teacher…
I think the greatest thing I learned by being on the Teacher side of Parent/Teacher Conferences was…as the Bible Teacher in Room 1501, I get to spend more time with these parent’s kids than they as the parents get to. I have lunch with them everyday, I have them in class in a Question and Answer format…everyday. I see them walking through the corridors and hanging out with their friends…everyday. I see them laugh, fight, love, work, play and relax, every day…Monday through Friday…everyday…did I say every day?
So…as a first year teacher experiencing my first Parent/Teacher Conference…I will never take teachers for granted again. (I recognize I have said that phrase a lot since becoming a teacher)…
Teachers do not just educate our personal children, they are one of the most critical contributors of turning our boys and girls into Men and Women. Can you think of another person or organization that gets to spend that much time with our kids? The Church on the corner doesn’t get that much time. Our kid’s friends down the street don’t get that much time. Television doesn’t get that much time. Teacher’s do. Where your kids goes to school might be one of the most developmentally important decisions we as parents make in our children’s lives. Hmmmm.
I learned a lot this week from my experience in Room 1501.
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Beginning of Worry Bible Study…if interested…
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life ? “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds! Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life ? Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest? “Consider how the lilies grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today, and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, how much more will he clothe you, O you of little faith! And do not set your heart on what you will eat or drink; do not worry about it. For the pagan world runs after all such things, and your Father knows that you need them. But seek his kingdom, and these things will be given to you as well. “Do not be afraid, little flock, for your Father has been pleased to give you the kingdom. Sell your possessions and give to the poor. Provide purses for yourselves that will not wear out, a treasure in heaven that will not be exhausted, where no thief comes near and no moth destroys. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.
Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you.
Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall.
An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?”
When I am afraid, I will trust in you.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers,